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Self-confidence - what is it and how to strengthen it?

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Every day we hear or use concepts like self-esteem, self-respect, self-efficacy. All of them relate to an image of our own value that stems from how much we are accepted, i.e. the attitudes of other people about us, and how we evaluate our own resources: abilities, knowledge, skills. Likewise, at some point in life, we were all faced with questioning our abilities, or in a specific situation, we had a feeling that we did not match the challenge.

People who have a broken image of themselves often blame themselves for what they see as failures, while not seeing their positive qualities at the same time. They often avoid challenging tasks at work or at school, as well as engaging in new activities, to avoid a potential failure or disappointment. As a result, in social relationships, they can be overly cautious, closed down and find it difficult to stand up and fight for their attitudes and opinions. Over time, they increasingly avoid different situations, they are less likely to face the challenges and, consequently, they confirm their already broken image of themselves. Ultimately, if this condition persists in duration, they become anxious, frustrated, sad and anxious.

In order to gain true insight into one’s quality, to make a picture of self as realistic as possible, and to strengthen self-confidence, it is advisable to find out in which situations this distorted image is particularly expressed and to slowly change the behavior and reflections.

How to boost our self-confidence:

  • Notice in what situations you do not have an issue with self-image - what experiences, knowledge and ideas about yourself are active at that particular time, and can they help you deal more successfully with the situations you find challenging
  • Daily become more aware of your little successes and your positive qualities, skills and knowledge. Let these serve you as a reminder during the times when you are experiencing difficulties
  • Become aware of the typical thoughts in challenging situations and question them a little - are they really always true, are you perhaps overly self-critical, examine how others see you...
  • Get involved in some new activity or make yourself occupied with some new hobby or skill
  • Associate with positive and open people
  • Be physically active on a regular basis

Working on improving self-confidence does not mean that you will ignore your failures or disadvantages - on the contrary: a balanced image of yourself will give you determination and strength to further engage in working on yourself and to live healthy and fulfilled.

In case you notice that you have slipped into the old, overly self-critical and negative patterns and thoughts, realize what has led to this, revise the achievements and skills you have developed so far and look for support in the circle of close people. If despite all of that you still have problems pertaining to self-image, contact us.